Going at it alone...

[Giftie]

So when I started working out back in 2007 I had a gym partner that I worked out with religiously. After about 2 years I started marathon training and it took so much of my time that we worked out together a lot less. Fast forward to my second marathon that I invited her to join - not such a great idea. I'd done it before and knew the effort that had to be put in, but I pushed her too hard and she eventually quit. It strained our relationship quite a lot. 

We don't work out together anymore and now that I'm not doing marathon training I sometimes miss having a gym partner. It's definitely not always because I do a whole lot and don't expect someone to do everything I'm doing to try to get in shape. (I'm not going crazy either ya'll, I've just given myself until my next marathon training to lose about 30 lbs and thats in August) I'm pretty self-motivated so I don't have to psych myself up anymore to get it done. The challenges people invite me to are preeeeettty awesome because I push myself every time so that's cool. I guess I just wanted to vent because there's no real question to ask here, I just sometimes miss having a partner.

[Odyssey13]

@Giftie  You've made great strides in your quest for fitness and you're going to get those extra pounds off by August.

I'm sorry you lost your gym partner, but maybe she wasn't in the same place in her life that you were. Not everyone wants to put in the time and effort it takes to work out at the gym, much less be a marathon runner. It's possible that your determination and success scared your friend. Sometimes a strong woman finds her friends are intimidated, which may be what happened.

Maybe you could try calling her and telling her that you realize you pushed her too hard. If she's a true friend, she'll understand and maybe you can get together

Why not seek other avenues of finding a partner to share workouts? There must be a bulletin board in a local coffee shop, a weekly paper to place an ad in that coud lead to another person sharing your goal.

Keep on stepping and running, girl. You're doing great.

[WendyB]

I agree. Try and reach out to your friend. Sounds like you pushed to hard and she was not ready for it. Not eveyone has the same goals.

You doing grat so keep it up!

[Giftie]

Thank you @WendyB @Odyssey13 - I was contemplating reaching out again, now I'm going to!

[EdsonFitbit]

@Giftie It seems that you have enough time to prepare yourself for the marathon. Good luck! Let us know how it goes. 

[Giftie]

Well lookie lookie here, guess who's going to run the Rugged Race with me in September! And she still goes to my same gym so yay, we are back in business!!!

Thank you guys, I guess I just needed to get over myself!

[Odyssey13]

@Giftie  What wonderful news you have shared with us today. I know you must feel lighter today because you took the right steps towards your friend and reconnected.

Happiness abounds...

[MRose]

So glad you were able to get in touch with her again! And just for the record, you never have to go at it alone. You have thousands of virtual gym partners waiting for you right here