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For all my Chats, Challenges & Laughs peeps! Since we can't get on the threads I thought I would start a discussion area for us. We may not be able to keep track of points standings easily but we can still talk.

I miss you!

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Rain is gone and heat has arrived. I have a pinched nerve in my shoulder/neck. On Sunday, I had shooting nerve pain every time I moved, but today it’s just tight. Heat and ibuprofen are helping. 

I’m still getting my water but can’t remember to track my food. Tomorrow is my official weekly weigh in and we went out for Chinese tonight. I was going to make meatloaf but went to visit my mom and didn’t get home in time. 

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Meatloaf seems to be a GREAT diet food.  It has been working surprisingly well for me the last few days.  I put in lots of vegetables and limited  lean meat.  It is nutritious and satisfying.  I hope it works as well for you.   I was afraid to step on the scale this morning for fear my success would disappear but I still weigh 116 today.  So happy. ( I probably should mention I am very short.)

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Today I walked 15 minutes for the 5th day and it seemed EASIER.  I think that is what is supposed to happen but I was surprised.  I hope I didn't gain weight today, I had a 300 calorie slice of Pizza and some candy for breakfast.

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Our family Christmas in July on Saturday was a great success, very relaxing and fun with wonderful food and drink (boozy freezer pops!).

Brunch with hubby's aunt on Sunday was also a great success, she got in and out of the car very easily and we had a wonderful time visiting and eating.

I accidentally left my fitbit at my sister's on Saturday but we were driving out to a store near her on Monday so I planned on picking it up then.

We were in the car heading out and I called her to see if we could swing by, she answered and said she was at her son's house because her house caught fire on Sunday night. They think a stray spark from a firework (private not public) landed in the garbage can next to her house. It burned up the wall, into the eaves and into the attic from there. She was in the shower and when she got out she heard banging on her front door and glass breaking, she looked out a window and saw four men at her door - she thought she was being robbed until she heard them shouting that her house was on fire.

Firefighters got the dog out and she and the dog are fine. She called her son who showed up with his wife and they were allowed back in the house to grab clothes, pictures, jewelry, etc.

Because it was in the attic there is damage to the joists and there are now holes in her roof, living room ceiling and hallway ceiling along with 3" of water in her basement. She is currently staying with her son until a long term rental can be found as they don't think she'll get back into the house until almost Christmas. She has been back with the contractor and was able to pack up some more items and move them to the garage. Two of the three bedrooms are largely untouched so that's a plus. Just smoke and water damage. 

Being the person she is, she grabbed my fitbit when they grabbed clothes and pictures. She assured me she has it. I didn't have the heart to tell her it's seven years old and dying.

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OMG @Cele21 what a dramatic story! I had my first car die in a one care fire termed "car-b-que" by the firefighters who arrived on the scene and it was terrifying. Fire scares me to death and I actually loathe the 4th of July - it's so hot and humid usually and people get too drunk and too stupid and I'm surprised most homes are still standing afterwards. I don't even really appreciate fireworks because they seem so threatening to me. My neighborhood had several people post recently on several platforms about please don't use fireworks OTHER than on the 4th because it's so hard on pets but for the first time ever, I saw 2 posts about the trauma for veterans dealing with PTSD. Where I live, we have rednecks that set off fireworks all month and even all year long and with 815 homes located so close together, it really is a potential hazard!

 

Anyway, I'm glad that your sister and dog made it out okay and were able to rescue a few items but what a huge inconvenience. They are very lucky but at the same time, what a nightmare!

 

So I'm hanging in there. Yesterday when I weighed myself I was at the lowest I'd been in as long as I could remember so I actually looked through my log - it was July 2019 since I was last this low. And then today I was a little lower still.  That's my bright point of the day.

 

The rest of my day is a struggle. I've been trying to be really good about sleep and self care but I feel tired a lot. This morning, I stayed in bed an hour and 45 minutes after my alarm because I just didn't feel motivated to get started. During that time, I noticed I'd received a text from what I guess is now my ex-boyfriend and it was a pretty vicious response to my expressing hope that he was doing okay and taking care of himself. So, I guess that's over. We've gone around about 4 or 5 times on this merry-go-round of his being upset - with me or with something in himself - and then his withdrawal. Each time, it's been really hard on me and I've cried and told him how he's hurting me when he does this and how it is eroding my feelings towards him. Each time I've told him this DURING the episode he's stated directly or implied by behavior that he doesn't care. Now here we are where I've done something stupid and wrong and he's making an enormous deal out of it and I just can't seem to shed a single tear. I feel badly but I don't have the will to fight for us anymore. I don't think we can recover from this and I wish I felt sadder about it but I just don't. Because of the on again off again pattern, I've basically just flexed back into my off again habits and it's okay. It's THAT feeling more than anything that makes me think this is the final stop for us as a couple.

 

Work is going very slowly again. I had two GREAT appointments on Monday, I was sure at least one if not both were going to book and both have blown me off on the agreed upon follow up time. Because of my disappointment and everything else, I just kind of don't feel like even trying today. It feels a little hopeless that I'll make it by the 14th and so now we push out to October . . . ugh!

 

On top of all of that, my stomach is really upset again today. My appointment with the GI can't come soon enough! I almost wonder if I'm actually sick today or just feeling depressed because I'm alternating between too hot (it has after all been near 100 all week) and too cold. I'm really just wasting time now here on the chat because I should be making phone calls but my phone weighs about 50 pounds right now and I feel like I can barely lift my glass of water to sip disinterestedly.

 

I'm supposed to give a speech tonight at a Toastmasters meeting. I didn't renew my membership about 2 years ago and let it fall by the wayside but given how my schedule has opened up now that I'm not traveling so much anymore, I've attended 2 meetings with a small club nearby. The theme is independence and my speech titled Independence Day is about transitioning to my new job where I am my own boss and have greater autonomy. At the time when I wrote it, I felt strong and determined. Now I don't even have the energy to practice it much less deliver it with conviction.

 

I guess I'm being Debbie Downer today. I know ups and downs are a part of life. Today, I'm just trying to hang on. My cat has been very snuggly lately. At 12, he's become the perfect snuggle buddy now that he's outgrown the zoomies of kittenhood although now that he comes to bed with me at bed time, he does still pounce my feet under the covers before settling down for a nap. Since stuff just seems more difficult than they've been in a long time, I'm just focusing on me and him and being the best human to my little guy I can be.

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So, it's been a little while since I've asked a question for us to ponder. Since I could use a pick-me-up, I'll throw this one out there:

 

What is a non-food, inexpensive treat that you give yourself to celebrate a success or to perk yourself up when you are feeling low?

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Up 0.6 pounds on Wednesday. 

Still not tracking. I don’t know why I’m having so much trouble getting back into a routine. 

Yesterday a friend came over to paper craft and we had a great visit. I baked two Tastefully Simple mixes that I bought when my older daughter had a party - blackberry crumble bars and cranberry orange loaf. Today I have a headache that is probably sugar related. 

@Cele21 , I’m glad you had a great get together but really sorry about your sister’s house. With the amount of unsanctioned fireworks around here, it’s a wonder that there were no fires. In the past year, we have had two houses explode from meth cooking, each causing considerable damage on each side. 

Now I have to work myself up emotionally to take my mom shopping. 

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@Cele21   So sorry for your sister having a fire.  That would just wreck your life for a long time.  Horrible.  Hope she had lots of insurance.

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@Katrin Good for you for doing so well with your diet effort with a  2 year lowest weight .  Hope you can meet someone new to replace the nasty ex boyfriend.  Don't give him another opportunity to  hurt you by responding to anything you send.

            A few new books is a treat, but I'm trying to read all my paper books and give them away.  I've made incredible progress on that too.

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@ElaineJ27  I'm interested in your shopping experience with your mother.  What makes it so bad?  What do you shop for?  I'm fairly good at making something I don't want to do into something I want to do sometimes.

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I'm still here.  Just a short note as I have to go out in a minute.

 

I don't usually look at the Fitbit website unless I see an email from someone on our forum.  I hadn't seen an email for a couple of weeks and thought that no one was posting or that Fitbit had got rid of the forums (again).  I had to go to the website to check something that is not available in the app and noticed a whole heap of posts.  I haven't read them all, will do soon.  Apparently, either or both Fitbit / my computer decided to remove posting notifications, so I was no longer getting anything from anyone.  I have now fixed it up and later today I intend to read everyones posts and hopefully write another of my "epic" emails (my cousin in Florida says I am the only person he knows who writes a four page email, but he loves hearing about what we get up to, he is really my Mum's cousin and is 82 years old.).

 

Anyway, I'll be in touch soon (see even my short notes are long LOL 😁 

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Just as a point of interest for anyone who is dating,  my daughter found her husband with online dating somehow.  I don't know anything about it , but she said it was a lot of work.  It was so successful though.  Her husband is perfect for her, smart, tall handsome, sweet.  I'm so happy she has a companion to share her life with now.  She did that too late to have children unfortunately, but better late than never.  Also better that she didn't marry someone wrong for her and then have to go through a divorce.

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2 points for Thursday - water and posting

 

DD2 decided today to spend the weekend with DD1 so we are leaving in a few minutes. 

@Glenda , my mother has always been abusive, mostly mentally. She is never happy and it’s the fault of whoever happens to be closest. I did take her to the quilt store with me and she enjoyed that. I don’t think I can take her to Walmart anymore because she insists that she needs things that she can’t use - like a pair of scissors that would cut leather in case she wants to make a leather coat. I got many sympathetic looks while trying to choose cereal, tissues, and all other kinds of supplies. 

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I have been quite busy of late but sometimes I look back at the end of the day and think did I actually accomplish anything.  I did have a massive clean out of my bedroom and did get rid of quite a lot.  I still have several suit cases and boxes that I haven't even looked at (some in my room & others in the spare bedrooms), but I want to do one box or case at a time and not my usual lets open everything up make a mess and put it all back again.

 

We have been out of lockdown for a couple of weeks but another state New South Wales is coping it bad.  Today they had 50 cases with 16 people in hospital and 4 in intensive care on ventilators.  My state has gone nine days without a case.  The vaccine rollout is extremely slow.  I am hanging out for my second jab on August 6th.

 

At least we can go to the cinema - off there tomorrow to see the second of the "Escape Room" films.  And finally we are being allowed to sit in our reserved seats for the rugby league.  Next Saturday will be the first time since September 2019 that I will sit in my "own" seat at AAMI Park to see my top of the ladder team Melbourne Storm play.  We have had the same reserved seats since the stadium opened in 2010.  Last year there was no games played in Melbourne & this year due to capacity limitations due to covid we had to sit it different areas.  

 

I've had some blow outs with food but I am trying to get back on track.  I need to exercise more, my motivation is just not there at the moment and we are having one of our coldest winters so that is not helping.

 

@Katrin - Sorry to hear about your break up, but from what you have written it is probably for the best.  Now you have only yourself to look after and please.  As someone who has been single for a very long time I don't know if I could be bothered wanting to please someone else!

-  Congrats on keeping watching your weight and continuing to loose.

-  You asked about treats.  For a no cost treat I binge watch several episodes, even the whole series if there is only five or six episodes of a series.  I love just getting absorbed by whatever is going on.  When I lose 5 kg (11 lbs) I treat myself to a Pandora charm.  I have only just started doing this so I only have only bought two charms (the others on my bracelet are gifts).  For an expensive treat (although a necessary one) I have a 90 minute remedial massage.

 

@Cele21 - Sorry to hear about your sisters house.  Hope she is insured.  I hope that the most important things (beside herself and the fur baby) like photos and sentimental stuff survived.  Glad to hear your fitbit made it out okay!

- You mentioned your sister having Christmas in July.  In Australia a lot of people celebrate a smaller Christmas in July as it feels more appropriate to celebrate Christmas in the winter especially as most people here were either born or are from European backgrounds.  My family doesn't celebrate in July but then we have all the trimmings and cook the turkey in the oven on Christmas Day even if the the temp is 40C (104F).

-  How are your knees?  I hyper extended my "good" knee the other week & it was more painful for awhile than my "bad" knee.  I read the other day that you know when you are getting old - you stop referring to your right & left knee and call them your good & bad knees.

 

@CJ_Here - I love fireworks but I am also scared of them so I am glad that here they are illegal unless it is a public function and it is performed by pyrotechnical people with the St John's ambulance people in attendance.

-  Floating on a lake sounds lovely although not at the moment here where the temp is 13C (55F).

 

@ElaineJ27 - I hope your neck / shoulder pain has settled down.

-  How are things at the Kidzeum?

-  I feel so sad for you when you talk about your relationship with your mother.  My Mum & I have a very close relationship, yes we do at times get on each others nerves and we do argue at times mostly we get on well.  We are similar in many ways but also very different, she is nervous and worries about everything and I am a bit of a diva at times.

 

Margaret - How are you?  How's WW going.  I'm still doing WW but the last two weeks I have have had less blue dot days than not.  I have even exhausted my weekly allowance and cut into my activity points.  Still I am continuing to lose weight just very slowly.

 

@Glenda - We refer to Australia as Oz.  We use the term Aussie but we pronounce this as Ozzie with a "z" rather than an "s" sound.  I know most Americans pronounce it with the "s" sound.

-  Keep up the walking.  I've been walking more but I want to get back to other exercises.

-  I don't recommend food poisioning.  Although I have never really had it (just a couple of mild reactions to some dodgy food) my Dad was hospitalised twice (two separate incidents, and no not my cooking, he was at a lawn bowls event on both occasions).  The first time for a week and the second for 10 days.

 

Well I think that is everyone caught up.  I have made a note to self that if I don't see any emails from you from now on I am to check the fitbit website to make sure that my notifications haven't been changed.

 

Stay safe & be happy.

 

 

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Jan,  You made me smile at least saying at the end of the day you wonder if you accomplished anything.  I seriously suggest you keep a little notebook record during the day of the things you do.  Then you can remember and feel good about yourself easier.  I do.   You feel you need to exercise more but  I don't think you should feel guilty or try to force yourself.  I've been gradually working my way back into my exercise routine doing only what is comfortable and if I don't like being on my treadmill, I get right off.  I recommend it.   If you are surprised to find you are ok with it up to a point you will be more willing to begin again the next day.  It will get easier gradually.  ..............Fireworks have caused so many serious injuries, they should be left to the professionals.

             Elaine,  It is so good of you to take your mother anywhere.   Sounds like she is fairly into dementia.  I would be tempted to  make a shopping list with her, and leaving her at home, just go buy the things for her.   You are a saint.

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Good to hear from all through your posts.  Unlike @Jan2512 , and I think most of you, I have a hard time remembering the specifics to comment directly back to people.  Please know that I read all, enjoy all, feel for you all; very much.  Sometimes, in my dream world, I think it would be nice to live in a community of people such as yourselves to visit each other across the courtyard, etc.  I think I have a little 'hippie' in me, lol.  I am a loner, but also really enjoy one-to-one deeper level conversations (along with the light-hearted variety).

 

I will echo my condolences to your sister, @Cele21 .  I can't imagine having to deal with the destruction, uprooting, insurance issues, etc. that she will now be going through.  Just horrible. 

 

I hope today is a better day for you @Katrin .  It feels very overwhelming just reading about your life right now.  I hope your speech was what you needed to realize why you made the change you made.  With everything, I remind myself of the saying, (in part) "there is a time, a season, a reason"... maybe this job is a stepping stone to something else.  And, there is something to be said to being a relationship with self and not with someone else.  This may be the time and focus you need to rise above all your current struggles.  Hang in there.

 

I have moved a few containers around in my craft room trying to find some things.  It is totally unusable as is.  I have so much to go through, get rid of, and organize what I need to make it a functioning, creative place to dwell in.  Hopefully, this week I can start moving forward on this project.

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Hi all!

 

Saturday was a 3 (steps, exercise and water)

 

I've been struggling to establish / maintain routines. For example, after tracking all my meals for over 3 months, I just stopped. Thanks to continuing to walk daily, I've managed to stay in onederland. I'm back at square one with tracking though. My goal for this week is to track breakfasts, activity and sleep in the WW app each day. If I track other meals, that's a great bonus, if not, that's ok as it's not part of the goal (this week).

 

@CJ_Herehow is the bathroom project going?

 

@Cele21Have you started PT for your tendonites? I'm so sorry about your sister's house. The most important thing is that she and her fur baby were able to get out. Nice bonus that she could salvage a lot of (especially sentimental) possesions. It's really unfortunate that dealing with insurance and contractors are going to be monopolizing so much of her time and energy for the next 6 months.

 

@ElaineJ27How is the Kidzeum volunteering going? Has your pinched nerve resolved itself? or is it keeping you from playing golf? Your back to back +5 / -5 weeks reminded me of my rollercoaster of a journey. While it's important to understand what's going on to learn from our past actions, I've also discovered that sometimes our bodies just seem to want to keep us on our toes!

 

@KatrinAter reading your reminder of the merry go round your BF has had you on, I think when you wrote "...he deserves so much better than me..." and "...he's better off without me..." That you actually had it backwards! I'm glad to hear you are focusing on your kitty and his UNCONDITIONAL love. I'm also glad to hear that you've been able to resume your storytelling and Toastmasters journeys.

 

Being in a corporate club, we didn't skip a beat converting to a virtual environment when our offices closed last year. We've lost quite a few members who preferred the in-person version so are now starting to talk about how we're going to do meetings going forward. We'll probably have to do some sort of hybrid arrangement as we've added quite a few members (coworkers) who are from other parts of the country (and world).

 

Based on what one of the WW members in my workshop mentioned during one of our meetings a few months ago, you made the right decision to stop taking the advil. She was having GI issues and was selected to participate in a study. The first thing she learned was the amount of damage too much advil can do.

 

In answer to your question, I like to reward myself with activities - such as going to the movies with my daughter or shopping (read spend time rather than spend lots of money) with my sister.

 

@Jan2512and @Cele21 I always find it fascinating to think about celebrating Christmas in the summer. My husband's sister moved to Florida about 5 years ago and while she has spent a few Christmases "up north" since then, she's also posted pictures of herself with her husband on the beach on Christmas Day. I guess it's all a matter of what you're used to. I always associate Chrstmas with cold weather ... although I do remember one or two years that we cut down our tree wearing short sleeved shirts and then put on shorts to decorate it with all the windows wide open in early December.

 

Hubby and I will be heading to my middle sister's house next weekend. My youngest sister, her hubby and at least her youngest son will be there too for a sort of reunion. I can't actually remember the last time we were all together since the sister who's hosting was in the hospital for the last Thanksgiving and Christmas before covid. Unfortunatly my other nephew, neice and my girls won't be there... Hopefully more of us will be able to make it to my daughter's grad / going away party in August.

 

I'm going to work on posting more regularily - wish me luck in remembering to do it.

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Hi Everyone,

 

So, I had a nice weekend. I didn't have to work at the store all weekend so I had a lot of time to be with friends and by myself. Friday night I had book club and had some wine and snacks and catch-up time. Because we haven't met in over a year, we started with just catching up and then selected our next reading list (7 total books were chosen) and then we watched the movie from a book we read a long time ago "The Secret Life of Bees." It was so much fun and refreshing to be with the girls again.

 

Saturday, two of the book club girls including my best friend Wendy came over and we went to my pool and hung out most of the day. It was a little hot but much less humid than it's been lately - upper 80s with a few clouds here and there. It was just about perfect.

 

Yesterday I did some "homework" items and did a family zoom call with my aunts, cousins and some of their grown kids. I find it somewhat tedious so I don't do it every month but it struck the right chord with me this week and I'm glad I participated.

 

My next print deadline is the 14th and I'm not likely to make it. I'm so close and the needle is moving but soooooo slooooooowly. Unfortunately, that pushes it out until October before I receive a decent paycheck. I have a lot of bills to pay between now and then but I really want to quit the retail job because of the pain in my foot and now coming off of the advil plus also it's exhausting and the exhaustion is pulling me away from focusing on the magazine. I can't keep up the double duty.

 

Anyway, it's good to hear from all of you and I really appreciate the support!

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My weekend with my girls and grandkids must have worn me out because I didn’t even wake up until 9:00 this morning. Hubby’s flying got rained out so we watched HGTV until 11, then went to the sub shop for lunch. Once we got home, I started on my daily housework, then took a walk. I only walked 25 minutes because Hubby came to pick me up in the rain. I wasn’t miserable but I would have been soaked by the time I got home. 

Now I’m planning our week’s meals and making a grocery list. I have a list of meals for the week but I won’t assign them to certain days because our schedule is unpredictable. Most of you know that Hubby takes off from his regular job and pollinates seed corn with a helicopter. He basically flies just above the corn and the rotor wind spreads the pollen. Add in a few evening meetings and some flying students and I’ll fix dinner whenever we can fit it in. 

My shoulder is much better. I have some tightness and turning my head very far is difficult but I keep stretching to loosen it up. I did a few days of an ibuprofen routine but can’t do that very long because of GI problems like with Advil. 

To answer Catherine’s question about rewards, I have found that I don’t respond well to that. I either decide it isn’t worth it or I just go ahead with the reward anyway. My best motivation comes from feeling better instead of crummy all the time. 

 

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What is a non-food, inexpensive treat that you give yourself to celebrate a success or to perk yourself up when you are feeling low?

I've been thinking about this question for a week and didn't know how to respond because I guess I don't do this and so felt "well, here's another thing I don't follow through on".  I was then thinking I should think of things I could do, but I guess I pretty much spoil myself and don't wait for anything.  It was refreshing and a relief to hear that @ElaineJ27  doesn't either.  But, she knew why.  And, I was agreeing that motivation comes from feeling better, but like, girl, you feel crummy and you are still eating poorly.  Ugh.  I only slept 3 1/2 hrs last night so on top of having a headache, ears rings, stomach upset, bloated with recent weight gain, I can't really even think of what to think, lol.  Seriously, lying in bed last night, trying to remember how to fall asleep (for the 5th time), all I could do was think, think, think of the various offices I've designed / decorated over the years; how I want to use an old barn door we were given in the back yard; how I could tackle (visualizing I guess) the upstairs guest room and my craft room; the list of things I want / need hubby to help me put up in the new bathroom (still waiting for shower pan, but could be putting up curtain rods, clothes rod / hanger thing, picutres); etc etc etc.  I came up with the brilliant idea that if I would tackle things everyday maybe I could / would sleep better.  Oi Vay (spelling isn't correct I'm sure; Swedish I think.?. maybe Slovenian.?.)  I wonder if this means "Oh, well"; probably.  I just grew up with this saying and to me it meant exasperation.  Think it sums up what I am feeling about myself.

 

So, @Katrin , it is the 14th today.  I pray that some leads come through and you make your deadline after all.

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