Get out of that abusive relationship

[Rhythm]

Someone posted this on another site last night, but I found it really inspiring and thought I would share with this group.

Imagine you are going out on a date with your man. And throughout the night he keeps telling you how fat you look, how ugly that dress looks on you, that you have no business wearing something that tight, or that you can see all the fat rolls, and gosh you've really let yourself go since you started dating. What would you do then? Wouldn't you just get angry, tell him to f-off and leave him?

Now replace the "he" with "you". How many of us stand in front of the mirror every day and tell ourselves those things? I know I do. Doesn't it just make you feel depressed, hate your body/yourself, and make you less and less sure of yourself? Why wouldn't we accept that sort of behaviour from another person, yet subject ourselves to the same pain with no consequences?

It's time to dump that abuser. Remember that you are a beautiful person no matter what. Improve yourself and your health if it makes you happier and lets you live a better life. But don't obsess over it to the point of always feeling like you are failing. If you look in the mirror and those negative thoughts come up - get angry with yourself! Remember what that supportive person in your life would say instead - that you can do it if you put your mind to it, that you are loved no matter your size and that the people around you only care about your health and happiness.

It doesn't matter how long it takes or what your goals are. Do it positively and you won't care that it took 2 years to drop 10lbs because you've enjoyed every minute of it instead of obsessing over it.

And if you think it will stop on its own once you reach that "magic number", think again..

[WendyB]

This is very true! Thanks for sharing!

[SarahM]

Love this post.  I think it is so true.  I know I can be pretty hard on myself sometimes.  You are right that this wont stop once we reach that magic number.  We have to take the time now to teach ourselves how to treat ourselves with the love, forgiveness and respect we all deserve.  

Great post. 

[Raviv]

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@Rhythm wrote:

Imagine you are going out on a date with your man. And throughout the night he keeps telling you how fat you look, how ugly that dress looks on you, that you have no business wearing something that tight, or that you can see all the fat rolls, and gosh you've really let yourself go since you started dating. What would you do then? Wouldn't you just get angry, tell him to f-off and leave him?..

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Actually,  a lot of people have the negative body issues that they do because there was someone in their life that said exactly these kinds of things.  It takes a while to get over that and not believe it even when they're long gone.  Other people's insecurities, when used to bring you down to their level, can really mess with your head.

Great post!

[Piglet0403]

Love, love this post. I am so horrible to myself. I have always been this way. When I was small I found several things I wanted to change. Now that I am heavier I am always putting down myself. Trying to improve these habits but its hard. This post is just what I needed.

[Rhythm]

I am glad this is helping at least a few people 🙂 keep positive and keep working on your goals and you won't go wrong