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I weigh 200 Kg (app. 400 pounds) - Need some buddies to keep me motivated

Hi guys,

 

My name is KJ and I am 30 years old.  Currently I weigh roughly the size of 3 healthy people.  I need to bring that down quite a bit.  I was hoping that there might be some people in similar situations who were looking to create a support network to stay motivated and on track.

 

My main downfall is the food.  If I think about it and keep track of food then I do really well.  If I don't engage the brain before I eat, I eat crap.  Normally I do really well during the day at work and then fall down at night.  

 

My goal for this year is to lose 50 Kgs (100 pounds).  My immediate goal is to lose 10 Kgs (20 pounds).  

 

Hope to hear from you.

 

KJ

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Hi,

 

Welcome on board, you are among good company on here.... I have lost over 74.5kg - 164lb in 24 months, it is doable, you just need to find what works for you.

 

I'm like you, if I'm busy I am fine, especially at work as I have set breaks and can't eat (and don't have time to think about food) in between my breaks, but the evenings and weekends are my difficult times, especially at the moment (our family is going through some pretty emotional stuff right now) so I just drink plenty of water and find things to occupy myself (a good book, or a good old chin-wag usually helps keep my mind off food and my finger out of the refridgerator).

 

I've sent you a friend request, so hopefully we can keep each other motivated.

 

xXx Theresa xXx

STARTED MY JOURNEY: 15th November 2012
WEIGHT LOSS SO FAR: 164lb - 11st 10lb - 74.4kg
WEIGHT LEFT TO HIT TARGET: 7lb - 3.2kg
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Hi KJ.  I am new to Fitbit and do not (yet) own a device though I use this dashbord daily to track my progress (and at times lack of progress).  I recently bought the Fitbit Aria scale which tracks each weigh-in on the dashboard for me so that I can see every ounce (literally) of progress and setbacks.

 

As for the food...  that is a tough one.  I have struggled for years with food and alcohol in the sense that I would eat and drink whatever I wanted whenever I felt like it.  Being around friends and my significant other made it easy for me to eat, drink, and be merry without thinking of the consequences.  When I started to notice my puffy face in photos and my muffin top expansion I kept telling myself that I should do something about it, but never did.  I kept telling myself that "Today is the day."  Then I would have setbacks and find myself berating myself in front of the mirror calling myself all sorts of degrading names (as if that helps) and once again telling myself that "Today is the day.  I am going to do this.  I am going to eat better."


Well, as many of us know, it is a familiar and vicious cycle of mini successess followed by setbacks and self-loathing.  All I can tell you is what seems to be working for me this time and why this time is different.

 

1.  You have to be ready.  Don't do it for anyone else.  Don't do it because you think it is the right thing to do.  Do it because you are ready.  You have to think about shopping, cooking, eating, drinking as though it were your job.  Why?  Because it is your job.  It's work.  If losing weight and getting in shape were easy we wouldn't be having this conversation.

 

2.  Once you are truly ready, throw away everything in the house that you know is a weakness.  

 

This is difficult if you have others living with you who want those food items in the house so that is a whole different type of challenge.  Once you identify your "go to" foods, slowly replace them with other choices.  Protein is very filling.  If you like eggs, have hard boiled eggs on hand in the fridge.  If you like chicken, bake or pan sautee (in chicken broth vs. oil) some chicken and have lots ready in the fridge for snacks.  Salads seem boring but there are a lot of great healthy toppings that do not add a lot of calories or fat.  Feta cheese, chicken breast, grape tomatoes, sweet peppers, onions, etc.  Choose salad dressings that are low in fat and calories and use sparingly.  Make your own if necessary.

 

If you are not comfortable eating at home, look up all of the nutritional information online for fast food and other places that you tend to gravitate towards.  Making educated choices are much better than grasping at the unknown.

 

Log everything you eat and drink.  Log it.  After a couple of weeks you will begin to see patterns and identify food items that are not helping you reach your goals.  It's easier to make adjustments when you have tracked your habits over time.

 

3.  Don't change everything at once.  Start with small goals.  Maybe say, "Today I am not drinking any wine."  Fill in the blank with any food/drink that is a goal for you.  Then try it again for the second day until it becomes easier.  

 

4.  Don't beat yourself up for having setbacks.  Just wake up the next day and decide whether or not you are ready today to make the changes.

 

That is what has helped me to not get overwhelmed.  I do hope it works for you.  You can do anything that you want to do so long as you truly want to do so.  🙂

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I am relativly new.  I bought fitbit's for my boyfriend and myself for Christmas hoping this would motivate us, and at the very least show us how little we move.

The fact that I wasn't even hitting 1000 steps per day was a real surpise.  This motivated me to start walking more.  Park further away from the building.  When I get up to go to the restroom take a longer route.  Then I started walking around the whole building on my floor.  This week I've started taking the stairs for 1 floor up, and down.  

 

The food is my biggest issue as well.   As you know you don't get to be this heavy by eating normally.  I can eat a lot of food all at once.   I've been logging my food even when I've had a binge.  It has actually helped me to see just how many calories I eat when I binge.   In general it's helped make better food choices.  Rice is sort of out for me right now.   I'd rather have a whole baked potato than a half cup of rice.  

 

Right now my goal is to get below 300, then my goal is 279.  I'm taking it slowly, not putting a goal that seems unreachable.   I'm doing it 10% by 10%.  I am a diabetic, and my long range goal is to get off insuline and other diabetic medications.  

 

I am 48 close to 49 years old.  I've been over weight since I was 10 years old, and I've been super morbidly obese for the last 22 years.   Starting this journey I was 314.   I'm at 307 right now.  

 

I'd be happy to be a buddy.  I was hoping there were going to be some people who were in the category of super morbidly obese.  Someone who can understand the special issues that goes with being this heavy.

 

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Hi guys,

 

Thanks for the replies.  I really appreciated them.  I've had a little bit of a bad start.  I went to the movies on Friday night and slipped in water from a leaking fire hose.  I ended up spending 14 hours in emergency and now I'm having to stay with my parents as I can't walk or look after myself.  Its really hard.  I really want to move and not only that but I am finding it hard not being able to control my food or cook for myself.  They eat at different times than me and eat different food.  

 

I just want to be home but I know that I can't manage at the moment.  Going to my GP tomorrow so I'll have to see what happens.

 

KJ

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Hi KJ..  I just wanted to add my 2 cents..  For me the food is the key. I have been to many "Pay to Weight" programs that work for a time but do not keep the weight off long term.  I personally cannot have sugar.  I have an addiction, if I have a tiny amount (just one bite of that cake over there) it sends me into a spin where I have to have more.  Maybe not right then but hours later or the next day..   

 

I have found relief from this thorugh Overeaters Anonymous (www.oa.org).   My sponsor was 430 and has maintained a 200+ weight loss for 12 years..   It isn't easy, it is more emotional and spiritual support than eat this or that.. but it is worth it.  It is the daily support that I haven't been able to get from other programs.  

 

And if you are not a spiritual person, please don't let that turn you away...   I came in as an athiest and it is working for me.        there are online meetings and phone meetings if you cannot get out of the house.  Please try to get to a meeting.. They are free (ask for a donation of $3 but if you cannot afford it..its ok).  

 

Best of luck to you and I would be happy to aswer any questions you might have.

Nicole

 

 

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My starting weight was 350, even though i had had the fitbit since july I just started seriously working on it about a month ago. I would love to be your friend, hit me up so we can challenge each other. I have found out that I know longer have any cartilage/synovial fluid in both knees. I got cortisone shots and now can walk and work out. Plus I got a machine for my sleep apnea which I didn't know I had until fitbit and have an appointment with a nonmedical weight loss program (nutritionist, exercise physiologist, physician) so lets do this together! We can do this,

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Hi KJ

 

You are not alone, i am in a similar position and i am 21 days into my weightloss journey, you can read day 1 - 21 on my blog if you like, and if you ever need to chat no problem! My first blog is here:

 

In the begining there was a chubber

 

The rest of the blog is here

 

The Baggy Cantona Blog

 

Good luck and keep at it!

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hi all

   our journey started a year and 8 months ago and was not an easy one. we me and my wife  lost our girl lehi 3 1/2 years ago and just co exsisted done not much apart from eat sleep and drink and found life very hard to be normal again within a year wifey was 23 stone and i was 21 stone which might not seem like much but we were both around 13 stone when we lost her and had quite an active life.

  i am now currently 16.2 stone and my wife has lost 6 stone we only started to use fitbit since last month and it does indeed motivate us so you can try to hit your targets.. *but have been walking everywere for a year an 8 months*  we had a another little girl and she's 8 months old at the moment and life seems back to a sense of normality and we call the bad times we had as the *hell*

  we use our baby and remeber our princess lehi and the *hell* we went through as our motivation

to get fit again and stay there ...

 

 sorry if its a little off topic but it helps us..

                                                 kriss d

 

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I find instead of thinking about the big picture, make daily, weekly and monthly goals. Breaking it down may help in fullfilling your main goal sooner then you think. It has helped with me lose 20 pounds in 4 months. Fitbit has a good amount of food journal options but not the best. At least fitbit is a step in the right direction. I am in the same boat as you. Keep up the good work!!!! Smiley Very Happy

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Hi KJ!  

 

You can do it -- just remember it takes time and willpower.  I've been in your shoes and I'm still in the midst of my weight loss journey... and it's taken me eight months to get a little past midway.  Rome wasn't built in a day. You're already ahead of the crowd just by starting and getting moving.

 

Congratulations for starting 🙂  

 

Keep at it and keep moving -- you'll make it.

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Welcome to the forums @kj_storm

 

Set your mind and your surroundings for a healthier lifestyle, take out anything that might sabotage your efforts and leave everything else out, to make the only option available, the healthy option for you. Cat Happy

 

We can do this! Let's get this party started @kj_storm Smiley Very Happy

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I would love to be buddies with you as well.  I have to lose quite a bit of weight as well.  I have severe arthritis in my knees and ankles and also have fibromyalgia.  Even just walking hurts, so my numbers are NOT high like others on the site.

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