@bdunlap I'll just come out and say it since everyone else is trying to be kind.
you sound like a condenscending douchebag.
You need to continue to work on yourself. Your behavior stinks of entitlement. You've convinced yourself that you need to feel comfortable in your body now that you've lost an entire overweight adult due to your illness (that you continue to state as if that's some sort of magical word to suddenly make us listen to you as if you preach the factual truth.) Which you did not lose by exercising, You did not lose the weight by any mental maturity, discipline nor hard work. You lost it the same way you had gained it. Laziness and Immaturity. So, tell me, why should we listen to you?
You clearly could not accept yourself when you were overweight, and now, you're acting like you are the chosen one. the one to lead them all.
You are clearly upset that you have this extra skin, but probably just as upset as you were when you were severely obese. Do you not see that? When will you realize that you have the ability to change? It's not something that just happens. The whole getting sick thing, will only feed that part of you that believes things just happen with a snap of the finger, and ta-da, things happen. I'm pretty sure the weight had something to do with you getting so sick, and probably set off a set of issues, perhaps it was the food you were putting into your body. my point being, you always have control, you always have the ability to change. Don't be lazy.
So why are you a douchebag?
Well, Instead of being open-minded and allowing people to have their own opinions, you are trying to put down others, you are actively using a false entitlement, stolen valor even, to put down other people, for having an opinion that is not what your reality will allow. You had to convince yourself that even though you're severely unhealthy, and due to the fact your not self disciplined, combined with lack the maturity and absolutely no determination to get your **ahem** up and go fix it, you need to manipulate the reality around you, so you can live with the fact that you feel you're" just like this". You find it easier to think that to do.
Actually, now that I think about it, You're probably saying all of this in a matter-of-fact way, with complete disrespect, and sense of entitlement not to try to convince us, but to continue to convince yourself. Because that's what all of this was, right? You're still trying, every day with every bit of energy you can even muster up instead putting it into your body, your appearance is instead put into convincing yourself you're fine the way you are, that you love yourself, all of the mental gymnastics you had to do because, well now I'm just assuming here, because you don't have the physical or mental discipline, perseverance, maturity or determination to work to fix the issues you have.
You can say no all you want. You can disagree all you want. You can go and gather a brigade of people to come to bully me on here as you did with so many others by using your illness as a way to get the attention and support you felt you had never received when you were larger, and now are entirely entitled to. (that's not OUR fault you were morbidly obese. Nothing you did, had done or experienced is anyone's fault but your own.)
You have already made this very clear, and what you *really* believe.
Maybe instead you should use the energy to go to therapy and work through these problems, and you won't have to convince anyone anything.
good luck.
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