12-03-2019 19:25
12-03-2019 19:25
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12-04-2019 18:39
12-04-2019 18:39
Shari, That is an interesting question. It sounds to me that you want comfort of eating for an emotion that your thoughts are causing you to have and instead you could change what you are choosing to think about Sometimes once I get started it is just "what am I eating next". No excuse. I never felt I needed one. Physical pain like falling off a bike is definitely different from emotional pain. If you are hurt and in pain you have less control over what you are thinking. Usually though you can choose what you think about. You could prepare yourself with some cheerful things switch your thinking to if you are just sad, anxious or depressed and think chocolate would help. I had a list of "blessings I used to switch to from grief. They were in order of importance, things I am grateful for (that everyone has that we know) but also if you sort through your life to pick out moments you were most happy. Someone wrote that most thoughts of the past are negative. But the actual moment your were getting married, or taking a new baby home from the hospital, winning at sports, graduating?? Good moments you can choose the rethink instead of whatever you were thinking about that caused you to need comfort. Or you could switch your thinking to things you are grateful for which seems easier and better maybe.
Maybe you have already rejected this idea as unworkable for you or it doesn't fit. But you might enjoy a list of things you might also be grateful for. (1) health (2) clean water to drink (3) paying taxes because that means you are not homeless. You have electricity, heat, air conditioning, a cook stove, refrigerator with food in it, washer, dryer, clothes, shoes, a phone, car and fuel. (4) luxuries of TV , computer, google, flush toilet (5) Lots of books for everyone, and recorded music, sports or exercise equipment. (6) I'm grateful for artificial sweeteners and plastic. ............I've forgotten something.
Anyway maybe you will start feeling lucky and not in need of comfort???
12-04-2019 18:39
12-04-2019 18:39
Shari, That is an interesting question. It sounds to me that you want comfort of eating for an emotion that your thoughts are causing you to have and instead you could change what you are choosing to think about Sometimes once I get started it is just "what am I eating next". No excuse. I never felt I needed one. Physical pain like falling off a bike is definitely different from emotional pain. If you are hurt and in pain you have less control over what you are thinking. Usually though you can choose what you think about. You could prepare yourself with some cheerful things switch your thinking to if you are just sad, anxious or depressed and think chocolate would help. I had a list of "blessings I used to switch to from grief. They were in order of importance, things I am grateful for (that everyone has that we know) but also if you sort through your life to pick out moments you were most happy. Someone wrote that most thoughts of the past are negative. But the actual moment your were getting married, or taking a new baby home from the hospital, winning at sports, graduating?? Good moments you can choose the rethink instead of whatever you were thinking about that caused you to need comfort. Or you could switch your thinking to things you are grateful for which seems easier and better maybe.
Maybe you have already rejected this idea as unworkable for you or it doesn't fit. But you might enjoy a list of things you might also be grateful for. (1) health (2) clean water to drink (3) paying taxes because that means you are not homeless. You have electricity, heat, air conditioning, a cook stove, refrigerator with food in it, washer, dryer, clothes, shoes, a phone, car and fuel. (4) luxuries of TV , computer, google, flush toilet (5) Lots of books for everyone, and recorded music, sports or exercise equipment. (6) I'm grateful for artificial sweeteners and plastic. ............I've forgotten something.
Anyway maybe you will start feeling lucky and not in need of comfort???
12-04-2019 18:48 - edited 12-05-2019 01:56
12-04-2019 18:48 - edited 12-05-2019 01:56
Thank you, Glenda. You are right about changing what I am choosing to think about. It's true. I have a difficult time during the holidays, because I miss my Mom. When I've gotten sad before, I have done what you suggested, I changed my thoughts and it works. I just never thought to do it when I felt like comforting myself with food. This is a game changer. I can do this!
12-06-2019 00:30
12-06-2019 00:30
I have a similar problem, so you're not alone, Shari!
Have been an emotional eater since 12.
Every time you have the urge to eat, stop and think: "Am I really hungry?" If not then do something that keeps your mind occupied, as well as your hands. Books or Netflix won't help. Exercise, writing, drawing, sewing - are some things I've found to be effective.
I'm also avoiding processed sugar, candy, white flour etc. I find I get hooked those foods and especially crave them.
Wish you luck, Shari, and don't be ashamed of it.
12-06-2019 06:10
12-06-2019 06:10
Sunstrider, you are very kind and supportive and I really appreciate you. Thanks for sharing your great advice which I will put into practice. And, thanks for saying not to be ashamed.