Giving up.

[needapushgirl]

Hey guys, Im 17 years old and im super insecure about my body. I feel overweight walking down the halls at school. I tried only eating three meals a day no snacks and no pop/juice only water. ive been making my step count everyday and im seeing no results. Im 200 pounds and extremly upset about it. Everytime i feel as someone is judging me i break and go back to the junkfood. Anyone  have tips? Help i need you guys..

[ZhannaB]

I am 44 years old, have a child, I lost 40 lb. within the last year. What helped me :  1. I eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day ( 3 times is not enough, your body will think you starve it and instead of spending your food for energy will store it as fat!) I NEWER SKIP BREAKFAST  2. no alcohol, pop, fast food. 3. I count my calories (intake vs. burned. I do it with My Fitness Pall app.) but I never go under 1200 a day. 4. I exercise 4 -5 times a week  5. all carbs and fruit before 2 pm. Evening - proteins and veggies.

It not easy for first 2 week, than it becomes a life stile. Than comes result!!!

Good luck!!!

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[Mcore]

That is true @ZhannaB, this becomes a lifestyle, you will even feel weird if you skip a meal or don't work out. 

Thank you for sharing this with us! 

[MRose]

Hey girl, I hope you're still coming back and reading these because a lot of these people have been where you are and are giving wonderful advice!

A few years ago I was exactly where you are (only I was closer to 260), and even after getting a gym membership in college, I would go to the gym and get these glares from people, and finally one person actually came up to me and, very condescendingly, asked, "Pssh, why are you even here?" She didn't expect me to answer but I looked at her and said "Well at least I'm here!" You might not like where you are at the moment, but at least you're aware of your desire to change and willing to do something about it.

I agree with the other people who have said to be careful about the 3-meals thing, because you should be eating more often than that. Keep some carrots, celery, Wheat Thins, or something like that in your backpack of keep something like that in the kitchen if you can. First off, having something crunchy that takes longer to eat really kicks the craving better than the same amount of cookies. I'm hardcore emotional eater, and really had to start kicking that before I was able to allow myself to believe I could lose the weight (which, btw, I've lost a total of almost 100 lb, 35 of which were after a major surgery). Just keep moving, keep walking, and become one of those people who is almost irritating with the excitement of healthy recipes and new ways to make cucumbers interesting. 

Also, remember that the people who seem to be glaring at you or laughing at you in the hallway: Most of the time, it's all in your mind because you're already self conscious, but also, it's almost 100% guaranteed that they're pushing their own insecurities onto someone else because they don't know how to handle it (or don't even realize that's what the problem is).

The school year's over now, so make the summer the best one ever! Come back for the next semester having maybe lost a few pounds but feeling 1000x better!

[rjansson]

Don't give up. Sometimes it is OK to have a little snack. Just choose wisely when having one. Set up a bag of carrots or other vegetables for this snack. It is low in calories and can help you feel more energized through out the day. Milk is something you should also drink for all the nutriants it has (you are still growing even if only by a hair). Green tea also is a great caffinated bevrage that is shown to help with weightloss. Also, not everyone will be judging you. Though I personally never weighed as much as you, I still felt like everyone was judging me because I wasn't the skinny cheerleader that every guy wanted to date. Right now you may feel like you are stuck, but maybe all you need is a change in your exercise routine. Many people reach an exercise plat. If you are starting out, give it some time. Not everything you see on those weight loss shows proves that everyone loses weight the moment they start exercising. If you are a planner, plan for six days of major exercise and one day of going on a ten thousand step walk. Make sure you don't do the same workouts every day on the same days (except walking). Even walking try to very how much you do each day. Just don't give up just because of high school standards.

[Rockhopper]

You're far too early in life to think giving up on yourself is a solution.  You're still "growing up" and your emotions are running amuck, so cut yourself some slack in the self-criticism department.  You have the possibility of doing great things, being a great person.  You are barely started.  Life will try to put enough millstones on you.  Don't put on more because of a little bout of self-doubt (adolesence), which is insidious because it likes to sneak around in your head trying to destroy your spirit.  I started out pudgy, remained so until my thirties when I started exercising--lots of different types from sweating-my-tush-off aerobics to circuit training, biking, rowing, running, stair stepping, tai chi, a bit of yoga, etc.  I made my own healthy yogurt and muffins, etc.  Didn't invest a lot of effort in learning nutrition, so you should heed the advice to get some dietician help (many health plans cover that especially if you have ongoing weight issues).  Otherwise, educate yourself.  Who knows you may end up the next weight loss guru.  Yes, it requires a lifestyle change, but it's worth it... and done right is not deprivation

Hey kiddo, believe me, once you are out of H.S. you will wonder why any of those people's opinions mattered in the least.  The community here will probably back that up!  High school is not as big a deal once you have it in your rear view mirror.  You are the master of your destiny.  Don't give away your power to others.  They are not better than you, so why should what they think be all-important to your self-esteem.  If they have a problem with you, it's not your problem.  Walk away mentally, emotionally, and physically.  When someone has an issue with me I'll consider it and use any insight to my advantage.  Read "The Art of War".  The insight is not just for warfare, but for life.  One of the biggest lesson is to not let "other people" decide what you are and can be.  

Humans are judgemental, too much so.  It seems often that we critique others just because we can.  What a misuse of talent and time.  We women do it to ourselves and others as some sort of strange competition when we should be putting those energies to better use.  In the meantime, when you find yourself fixating on your negatives, just say: "So what.  It just means I have room for improvement.  And, so does everyone else."  Detractors are people who need to bolster their self esteem at the expense of others.  They only succeed if you think their judgement supercedes yours.  

There are a lot of people here who are on your side and want the best for you.  They have given you encouragement, they understand, and they've loaded you up with a lot of good advice.  So, whose opinions matter--the haters at school (imagined or real), or the people here who feel your pain and want to help you find your way.

BTW, in addition to my weight issues, I had a facial disfigurement and my sister was pretty, slim, and popular, and our mom doted on her.  Doesn't matter so much any more cuz I learned that I really DO love myself, faults and all.  (And my sister is a big sociopathic mess especially now that her looks are going (she spent a lot of time on the beach in Hawaii and is rocking the shar pei look).

This is from a 3rd grade book:

As a beauty I'm not a great star.

There are others more handsome by far.

My face I don't mind it

Because I'm behind it,

It's the people in front that I jar.

Wouldn't it be interesting if we all had to wear rear view mirrors (on selfie sticks) focused on our own face.  Would we like it (vis a vis the "selfie" mentality), or would we find it uncomfortable?