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Attained my weight loss goal. Good for me. Now what?

I got my first "Are you doing OK"? (with the eyes and that tilted head saying "I'm concerned for your well being"). Me: Yeah, feel great, been exercing and getting down to batum weight class (thought that was funny). You see, I'm a large guy, over 6'2" so my bones and skin alone probably weigh 100#s. That's what makes it funny. Moving on  . . . "You shouldn't lose any more weight". "You're getting too thin". Has anyone gotten these type comments? 

 

Here's the backstory. Chubbish kid (not obese, and most certainly not thin. I think I was called big boned), didn't care.  Started to care when I'd been in college a few years. Dieted my adult whole life, but was never more than 50# overweight and, in fact, mostly never more than 30# overweight, mostly around 20#'s overweight, at the peaks. You know, the "husky" guy that shocks you when he says he weighs 230#. When starting the cycle (yo yo, as it's called) I am pretty careful to have a plan and stick to it for a long time. Determination. I got it (and the FitBit obsession helps). But, then I fall back into old habits and trail off the new (healthy) ones . . . slowly mind you, over months and months. Oh, I gained 5#, I can lose that in a month, starting tomorrow, no problem. Gimme those french fries. But, then, before I know it, I'm above where I tolerate seeing myself naked (that +20) and the cycle starts all over again to lose it.  Oy, I'm stressing myself out thinking about it. The naked reference may have been over the top but I am also hungry for fries now. Double whammy.  

 

My calorie deficit as of late has been substantial. I've lost that pesky 25#s and, frankly, I don't want to lose much more, I kinda agree with my friend in the opening sentence. I exercise about 4-6 days a week, mostly distance running around 6-15 miles per day. To feed (literally) that habit, I'd need to eat a lot more than what I've been eating since the start of 2014. I'm scared to do that. It seems like the more I eat, the more I want to eat and the more bad choices I make. Well, then, I can think about slacking off the exercise, right? Well, that scares me too. I don't want to do that for fear that I can't eat whatever I want (which I feel I can do now, I just don't -- well, more honestly, not often). While I don't LOVE running (like is a little too strong too), I do enjoy the time alone, with music, the pavement, sweating and that fulfilling feeling when I get back to my house and I've covered 10 or 15 miles. Ahhh, glorious accomplishment. 

 

So, just wondering if anyone has such a problem and how you might be dealing/have dealt with it. The yo yo's on the downside and I want off. How to transition, I feel it's key. Would love some input. 

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I'm sorry to say but I got a laugh from  the naked mirror part. i wish someone would say I was looking too thin. lol

best wishes.

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Congratulations! Stick with logging and let your fitbit guide you. It can help you to stay at your goal as you learn what you need to do to maintain.

Inga
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I've received similar comments and people don't realize how hurtful they are.  I made my goal weight above what the charts told me I should weigh and people still commented that I didn't need to lose any more weight.  I decided that unless my doctor tells me "enough losing weight", I'm going to stick to my goals.  I reached goal weight last year but have a hard time maintaining.  I managed to gain 15 lbs back, so it will always be a struggle.  Sometimes I think people get jealous when they see people succeed in something that so many people struggle with.  So just laugh them off and know you look and feel awesome!

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good advice, 2legit. don't be hurt by others comments, remember that most of what people say is really about themselves anyway. They aren't really even seeing you.

 

I am well below my original goal weight, and below a low BMI as well. Mine is easy to maintain, just getting some steps here and there. I am in my old healthy weight and normal in old "NY Life" table weights. Back to what was healthy in the 70s before America started gaining and fat became the new normal. Watch a couple of old Rockford Files or other reruns and look at how slim everyone was. That was normal!

Inga
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