need the motivation

[nex_caedo]

I'm trying to lose the extra baby weight from being pregnant. I'm having a very hard time staying motivated especially with my mother (who has had a weight loss surgery) always seeming to undermines any loss that i do get. i don't feel shes supporting me at all and I've always looked up to her so its hitting me hard and making me want to quit. i don't feel good about myself and i want my daughter to grow up with a healthy lifestyle but i cant seem to stay motivated.

[SunsetRunner]

my mom really used to have problems with her weight but after asking several of her friends to keep her accountable, buying a fitbit, and getting a membership to a near by pro club she lost weight fairly quickly. i also am in a group that deals with problems and it is proven that if you tell others like people that you know then they will cheer you on!!!! you got this i believe that if my mom could do it then you can too!!!!

[Mcore]

Hi @nex_caedo! Don't feel this way. You will be able to achieve your goal, just stay focus on what you want and feel good about yourself. You just had a baby, congratulations! 

I believe that comparing yourself to others is not the best way to go, although I understand why you do it. My advice to you is to focus on what you said on your post "i want my daughter to grow up with a healthy lifestyle but i cant seem to stay motivated" and find support from new moms that are experiencing the same. If you want to find more new mom friends, log to the link below and start changing your life for the better. 

https://www.fitbit.com/group/22BKCN

Keep up the good work!

[emili]

@nex_caedo- you are in a tough spot. you want to make the right changes, but you want support from the one person who probably has supported you all your life. I think what might be happening is you can't relate to each other's experience. she did it her way- which to her is the right way. For you its not an option- looking at your pic, I don't think you have that much to lose. if she could have done it your way, she would have. she couldn't for whatever legit reasons exist. here is the interesting part. you are now your mom relative to your child. your motivation, validation, comes from your child. go do it. start small- go walk. then make small changes in the kitchen. then walk more. make bigger changes in the kitchen and tell your child. doesn't matter if she is too little to know or understand. you don't need a pat on the back. you need someone to tell who is going to smile back at you - she will each time. send friend requests to folks here- message them when you feel you need to vent, cry, celebrate- that's what the community is for. just take the first step. best, E