@KristenAnne My husband used to tell me "eat, it makes me happy" and I did. Years later, I realized it wasn't healthy to eat without regard to content or portion control. Saying "no!" to his requests to join him in a milk shake, huge piles of pasta or anything else was hard at first. Doing what was best for me has resulted in his evaluating his own dietary choices. Now we're both doing better. There are times he will eat things he shouldn't, but he no longer asks me to share in them. He's happy simply because I'm happier! There are different reasons for our saying "no" to some things. Some of us want to lose weight, some have medical reasons and some have a desire for a healthier lifestyle. Whatever the reason, we learn to live with it. Lately I've been saying this: "I can have anything I want. Not everything is good for me, so I choose what is best for me." A family member limited sweets for her children. They would have to choose between hot chocolate or a doughnut on a cold snowy day. While her intentions were good, it didn't help them learn self-control. At family gatherings, the kids would eat all sorts of goodies while their parents were in another room. My Flex has helped me get more active, log my food and water consumption. It does keep me on track because I can my steps or lack of them. You can do it, KristenAnne. Just let your boyfriend know that you want to spend time with him, not the goodies he buys. Sometimes we just have to be honest with ourselves and with others. When you feel yourself wanting to give in and you need some help - come to the forums. Do some reading of the posts. Post some yourself. We're in this together!
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