02-13-2017 01:55
02-13-2017 01:55
@Bobbinyc, I hope it's ok for me to plagerize your Christmas to Valentine's Day Topic Starter but it was absolutely perfect!!!
Welcome all Challengers! What an amazing group we have!
Let's all continue together to take off the excess pounds and keep getting healthier.
This challenge will begin on Valentine's Day and finish on (American) Tax Day - 18 April 2017. (Really! It's the 18th this Year, not the 15th!)
All you need to join this challenge is to post your stats regarding your weight, and check in weekly or as often as you'd like. We are a great support group and enjoy keeping up with each other and being there for our ups and downs. Generally we have found that the more we check in and offer support, tips, info, and ideas to others, the more we get for ourselves.
We list our weight, as well as any other goals we might have related to being healthy (such as increase water, more active minutes, etc). Developing good health habits is primary.
A little rundown of terminology for anyone who is new.
USW- Ultimate Starting Weight
CSW- Current Starting Weight (for this challenge)
GW- Goal Weight (for Feb 14)
UGW- Ultimate Goal Weight (what your healthy target weight is)
PW- Previous Weight
CW- Current Weight
MFP- My Fitness Pal
List as much info as you like. Some people include age, gender, height....whatever seems relevant to you.
We keep it as serious or light as we feel, but we always keep it focused on being as healthy as possible, while we support each other kindly. We can do this together!!
04-04-2017 17:40
04-04-2017 17:40
Pretty good day today. Walked with Mom, did some housecleaning, took the dogs for a walk, went for another walk to the pharmacy to get meds and milk. I strolled right through the candy isle to prove I could. When I was leaving with my meds and milk I couldn't help but notice a girl about 12 having dropped an ice cream container. In her other hand were bags of candy. Her mother had her arms full of chips and candy too. I once might have been the same way. But no longer!
Mom is frustrated. Sticking to the calories in vs calories out is no longer working for her. She's going to lean more toward her South Beach that had worked well for her before (but failed in the long run). I know she does have issues with wheat, so maybe she can adjust her meals to get rid of that. Sister #1 has asked if she can go walking with us regularly. She's had a health scare. Man oh man, getting into the 40's can be rough on a person, huh? I wonder what it is...your eyes change, hearing changes, memory gets shot, blood pressure goes up, pre-menopause, joints get creaky, etc etc etc. You mean I have to put up with this stuff for 30-40 more years??
I got my 10,000 steps today but I'm sore now and the muscles in my leg are seizing up/twitching, so I think I'll do some stretches. I'll be spending about 5 hours in the car tomorrow so I'll need to take a good walk when I get home from the trip.
I'm looking forward to my next shopping trip to the grocery store. It will be veggie shopping time! My daughter will come home tomorrow, open the fridge and say, "There's no food!" I suppose I have my evening planned out.
Ok, off to do some stuff before bed. Have a great night everyone. Nobody is allowed to get sick or hurt! Eat well, get your heart going, drink your water.
04-04-2017 21:51
04-04-2017 21:51
USW - 154 (12/30/16)
CSW - 138 (02/14/17)
PW - 138.4 (02/19)
PW - 136.5 (02/22)
PW - 138.4 (02/28)
PW - 137.3 (03/11)
PW - 136.9 (03/16)
PW - 137.1(03/28)
CW - 136.0 (04/05)
GW - 130 (04/18)
UGW - 125 (summer?)
Will be back later to respond to other posts - just wanted to 'weigh in' first 😉
04-05-2017 00:18
04-05-2017 00:18
@HeartBiller - congratulations on your 50# loss!!!! Amazing achievement, but sorry to hear you have not been well. Hope you are feeling better now.
@Bobbinyc - your holiday break sounds very relaxing. It is lovely to get away from it all every now and then. I went to Yellowstone last year and had an amazing time.
04-05-2017 04:35
04-05-2017 04:35
@HeartBiller I have been debating saying anything, but I have to agree with Lilac. If you are that sick, and obviously contagious, you really should not be going to work in a doctor's office. Or any place else. My father had caught some virus from a office manager who thought her contact with others was minimal. Well, she had spread it to the nursing staff who spread it to the patients before they knew it. He ended up in the hospital very very ill. So did some of the other patients.
When my son was so sick, an aid came into his hospital room, sneezing and saying "oh it's just a cold". Really? He didn't need her cold. Fortunately one of the nurses said to her "it's not just a cold to some people. It's you being selfish".
Sometimes it's hard but we need to put caring for others first. I've lost time from work when I was ill, even feeling better but still contagious, and that meant no pay when we needed the money desperately.
I also feel strongly that kids should be kept home from school if contagious. Some people have illnesses already, and catching your virus is a serious threat for them.
04-05-2017 06:55
04-05-2017 06:55
@HeartBiller - WOOOOHOOO!!! Congrats on the 50 lbs!!! That is awesome.
04-05-2017 07:10
04-05-2017 07:10
@terryrunningjust like you had to respond to @HeartBiller, I have to second what @Bobbinyc said to you. I have found it is much easier to start small and then add more as you get comfortable or add more as you get excited about the result of the small start. You wanted to cut out soda but going cold turkey is hard, so replace one soda a day with water - if you hate the taste, flavor it up with either a store bought flavor add-in (which, while not the healthiest, is better than soda) or fresh fruit or cucumber. It's only once a day so it's not that big a deal. When you're ready, replace another.
You hate walking because you feel unattractive and you can't go far at all. We all feel that way. The skinniest marathon runner finds fault with herself as much as anyone else. But, the more you do it, the better, thinner, healthier (insert your goal here) you will be. Again, start small. Pick a goal - to the corner and back or around 1 block or 2 1/2 minutes out and 2 1/2 minutes back. When you feel comfortable, add to it - to the corner and the next driveway, around 1 block and to the next phone pole or 3 minutes out and 3 minutes back. Also, even though it is easier said than done, don't care what others may think, they have their own stories and battles to worry about and most likely aren't paying any attention to you. The more you do, the better and more attractive you will feel. And if anyone does pay attention and thinks "there goes the fat lady" pretty soon they will think "there goes the fat lady - again" then it will be "there goes that lady, she's doing good, I wish I had that dedication" and finally "there goes that pretty lady. Wow! She has done so much! What an inspiration!"
Even without knowing you personally, after reading about everything you have and are dealing with and seeing how much you love your family and still try to better yourself I already think that you are one kick-**ahem**, pretty awesome lady!
04-05-2017 07:34
04-05-2017 07:34
@Cele21 And now I'm going to second what you said! I love your advice about adding flavors to water.
And about walking to the corner, to the next telephone pole, the next block, etc.
When we are starting out, just putting the sneakers on and stepping outside the door can be enough. This is about creating new habits. And that takes time and a lot of attention to detail (which we all do so well for others). But what really got to me is the way you describe the responses she will get if she keeps at it - from "the fat lady" to "I wish I had that dedication".
It is so hard to stop putting others first all the time. Even in our heads, worrying about what others think instead of just doing the right thing for ourselves.
I agree with the way you describe @terryrunning I find this group to be loaded with "kick-"ahem" women and men who give so much to others and are learning to take good care of themselves.
04-05-2017 07:42
04-05-2017 07:42
Minihabits, minihabits, minihabits! It's a great way to start out.
For instance, I have a minihabit that says that once a day, I will walk 500 steps in a row without stopping. Seriously, that's all. It's like, twice around my house. Then I can sit down or whatever. But you know what? I usually don't stop there. I've made it such a habit that I always succeed, every day. I ALWAYS have at least one moment where I walk 500 steps in a row. Everything after that is gravy. If I run a 5k, awesome! If I don't, I still met my goal. I get that positive reinforcement.
Minihabits, dudes.
04-05-2017 07:49
04-05-2017 07:49
@terryrunning When I started drinking water more (more? I never had any!) I had to give it a lot of attention. I had to plan times - ie before each meal, and I had to track how much I had (I put rubberbands around the glass each time I finished and tried to work my way up to 8. Otherwise I would think I had a lot of water and it would turn out I had 3 glasses for the day). Some people buy pretty water bottles that hold a lot and just keep it on their desk, knowing it has to be finished by a certain time.
There are water bottles that have infusers. That allows you to add any flavor at all.
You can also try some carbonated water, flavor it, as a way to get closer to soda without the, uh, soda.
Just don't use plastic water bottles. They are horrible for the planet and filling our oceans. Part of being healthy, is having a healthy environment
@Cele21's ideas about walking, which I believe is the same way @_Lilac_ started, and is also how I started, works. Starting slowly with walking is important. A number of people here have had foot problems which can be totally debilitating. Starting with short amounts gives your muscles and tendons time to get stronger.
If you decide to start with eating more veggies, you could either add one to dinner, or make a salad every day. You don't need recipes, it can be raw to start.
One of the amazing things that happens in this process is that we get to know ourselves better. We learn about how we think, how we manage our emotions, how we change, what motivates us, what we do when motivation flags. I think we end up with a whole different level of self-respect. None of this has to do with the scale.
One more thing, when you, or any of us, posts about our struggles, it gets all of us to think once again about the part of us that gets stuck, how we get unstuck, and how we feel about ourselves no matter what. So, thanks for posting.
04-05-2017 08:07
04-05-2017 08:07
This is probably weird, but all this advice and kindness and wonderful way of seeing me has me crying.
I just walked two driveways down and back. I'm out of breath and I walked slowly. This is not good. I was so self-conscious that I talked on my cell phone the whole time.
When I came back in I had orange flavored water. Instead of thinking about the taste I thought about what Bobbi once said "nourishing our cells and organs". I thought about my heart that was pounding way too fast and thought 'this is for you'.
I'll try carbonated next.
One of the tricks seems to be to switch from all the negative thinking to positive. This is really hard for me, since I didn't realize I was being negative. I now see how much I put myself down and sometimes over the silliest things. I also get negative about drinking water by focusing on what I don't like . Or on being active. All the negativity only stops me from getting to where I want to be. I wrote in my notebook a quote from Bobbi about when she started walking and had her own resistance. I'm tired, it's too hot, it's too cold, I have too much to do, I'm overwhelmed, I'm too bored, I'm too sad/lonely/irritated/frustrated/happy., it's too early, it's too late... I cracked up. Put it that way and anything at all can be an excuse. I am trying to enter your "Land of No Excuses". It's way better than Never Never Land.
A few of you mentioned the joy of seeing all your goals light up at the end of the day. I used the scale as my reward and need to find something else. At least for now. Otherwise I slide back into doing everything too fast.
04-05-2017 08:32
04-05-2017 08:32
@BobbinycI worked in the lab and with outpatients for years so I always do so much research but Dartmouth had never used this drug because genotype 3 is so rare in the U.S. I found as much as I could online while we were waiting for the funding which actually was only a few days because it was that or I could die. I passed every test they ran for any other illness that could kill me and waste their money on this drug so they had to pay. I'll be done on the 27th and then it will take awhile for it to leave my system (haven't checked on it's half life) then we'll see if this was the cause of my being so tired .
04-05-2017 08:48
04-05-2017 08:48
@terryrunning I really thought it would be TMI to say exactly what was wrong with me, but I sure wouldn't want you all the think I would intentionally work when contagious. My issue was I had been constipated for a week so I took a laxative and I had a major reaction. Way more of one then should have been a normal reaction. It left me very very sick, weak, and nauseous. So yesterday I was still weak and tired from lack of sleep and all the night before. Today is much better. I do appreciate all the concern. I do apologize for the TMI.... lol.
04-05-2017 09:34
04-05-2017 09:34
@terryrunning You said, "I hate walking around since I look so fat and my clothes aren't even remotely in style. I know that sounds silly. But I keep thinking everyone is saying "there goes the fat lady". I also can't get very far at all."
I've felt exactly the same way. If you have Internet at home, you can do walking videos online. When I first started walking, someone on here recommended Leslie Sansone's One Mile Happy Walk. She has other videos, and I also really like the Biggest Loser One Mile Walk. You can walk at their pace or slow down to you own pace. You can stop or pause anytime you need to. It's a great way to get used to walking and get your confidence up. I didn't even want to do the videos in front of my family at first; I did them after everyone went to bed so no one would watch me, even though my husband kept telling me not to worry about it.
04-05-2017 10:08
04-05-2017 10:08
@Nora58 I'm sending you my strongest wishes that all this works and you come out of this just fine. So sorry you are going through this.
04-05-2017 10:21
04-05-2017 10:21
@terryrunning I'm one of those people that loves a gold star, or the flashing green lights when I accomplish something. Until something is a habit, we have to rely on motivation and determination. Those often need a boost. The flashing greens of meeting a goal is a great feedback/reward system. It works.
You can do this by setting small goals in your tracker - goals that are reachable. My thing is if I reach the goals very frequently, they need to be raised. I need it to be challenging but not discouraging.
Trackers don't have the tiny goals that we start with ie lay out walking clothes before bed or put sneakers on first thing.
Or you could make your own chart. Have columns for the days of the week, and the first column can list the habit you are working on for that week. You can give yourself a star each day that you do it.
Another thing about creating habits: It's easiest to tie it in with another habit. Like, I will drink water before every meal. You are eating the meal anyway, so this is just an add on. I used to get up, put my walking clothes on (laid out near me) and walk 1 mile before anything else. I think it worked for me because I was still half asleep and didn't realize I was walking It's hard to resist something you are too tired to realize you are doing.
Sometimes you need to figure out the exact times to do something, what is before and what is after. People who plan meals, or batch cook, have to block out the time for it.
If you pick one thing and work out the details and get into the routine, it won't be overwhelming. Then when that is comfortable you take the next step or add one more thing.
I am incredibly impressed with the amount of work you are doing. You make such good use of all the suggestions here and you are thinking about things on a meaningful, deep level.
You've got this.
04-05-2017 16:21
04-05-2017 16:21
I have NO idea how I got almost 10,000 steps today but there it is...I spent more than 5 hours in a car. I did go from dorm room to the car many times, carrying and stuffing items. My daughter moved home today. We walked to a place not far to have lunch and then to the pharmacy and back home. I took the dogs on separate walks...so 10,000 steps??
I'm tired and feel like I've had sodium, so I am drinking my water and keeping my feet up now.
@HeartBiller I am so sorry for making assumptions about you not feeling well. I desperately don't want to get that bug and afraid it'll get me somehow. In my paranoia I kinda singled you out and I didn't mean to. Take care of yourself and I'm glad things are kinda back to normal.
I'm going to go rest. I hope everyone had a successful and healthy Wednesday. Keep up the good work.
04-05-2017 16:33
04-05-2017 16:33
@terryrunning Yay for the driveways! When I began walking I'd take my dog around my city block. I'd be out of breath, my feet would hurt, my back hurt and I needed to REST. Then as that became easier, I expanded the walk down another block and over one. And then even more. Gradually building up gives a person a sense of accomplishment and success. When I started this journey I was making small goals for myself every week. For a year I'd basically been house-bound taking care of my husband, so some of those goals were simply taking a bus down to the library. Go see the river. Go to a movie at the theatre (5-8 min walk to get there from the bus). It was getting out and being involved in life again.
What a wonderful day you've had! Water, walking, tears. It's therapeutic. It starts the healing process.
Please, keep us up to date and we'll celebrate each time you get to another driveway.
04-05-2017 18:33
04-05-2017 18:33
Congrats @HeartBiller. Awesome job! 50 is a huge celebration! Hope you feel better soon.
04-05-2017 22:38
04-05-2017 22:38
@_Lilac_ I laughed at what you wrote about getting into your 40's and all of the things that happen. It's so true! I had to have back surgery at 43, around the same time I started needing reading glasses for small text, then I had cancer, and I didn't know it but I was going through perimenopause, and I had undiagnosed sleep apnea, so I could NOT wake up in the morning, I was so exhausted... I felt like my body had decided to fall apart. It scared the crap out of me! It was a nightmare at the time, I felt like I was too young to be having all of those health problems.
I still can't really laugh about that time in my life (After all of the health problems I lost my job and moved back to my hometown which was a really bad move). But overall I guess we have to deal with it and find a way to laugh about it, don't we? If you can laugh after all that you've been through recently I certainly can.
04-05-2017 22:54 - edited 04-05-2017 23:25
04-05-2017 22:54 - edited 04-05-2017 23:25
@Cele21 @terryrunning @Bobbinyc I agree about the small steps, and I love the example you give here about what others will think, @Cele21. Thinking back, everything I've done with Fitbit has been in small increments. I have been a gym member for since 1998, so I was used to exercising but due to numerous problems I was exercising less and less. So my first step was just getting the Fitbit and discovering how little I was doing. Then after 6 months of that I started going to a different gym and putting more effort in. At that point I was very overweight, had plantar fasciitis, and a knee problem, so I couldn't bend my knee much. My new gym had more young people, and there I was, 51, overweight, limping around and not able to bend one knee (which makes it hard to get down on a floor mat to stretch). I felt like they all looked at me and thought "wow, look at that fat old woman, I'm glad I'm not like her". I didn't want to be me, so why would they?
But I kept doing the little steps - I started logging my food (what an eye opener!), I went to the doctor and got my knee taken care of, got better shoes so the plantar fasciitis went away, then I joined this group, then I started doing challenges every week. I'm still overweight, but not as much as I used to be, and I've got muscles again. I'm learning to accept that I look older and there's not much I can do about that, which has been very difficult for me (the jowls!! I want my jawline back!) I don't really care what the young kids at the gym think anymore, but I don't think they stare as much (fixing the limp probably has helped). One young guy who works there even calls me his "favorite". I don't know why but I like to think that part of the reason is that I haven't given up, that's gotta earn me some respect. 🙂